Friendhip???

Hi

I was recently sitting down in my usual fashion to swim into the depths of my mind and wonder what these little things like love and friendship really meant? As i exlored through the experiences i have had and the lessons that life has thaught me, I learnt that Friendship doesnt mean anything!!!!!!

when i grew up in coorg with very few friends i was blessed with, i learnt that friendship meant everything to us. we cared for each other, liked each other without any hypocricy or expectations. Friendship for me meant, being there al the while. knowing every moment of your friends life, knowing all his sorrows and knowing all happiness of the other person. trying to surprise the other person regularly, keeping that person happy and being posessive oh him/her too.

well with other lessons that Bangalore taught me, a lesson on friendship was also one. these are a few facts that leave me astonished,

1. a friend on the computer chat room or other mailing system is more important than the friend (who really cares for you), who is sitting next to you in your house. So ignore him like you woul;d ignore a house fly!!!!

2. No matter how much the friend cares for you, you ned not keep in touch with him unless there is some work.

3. you dont have to go to his house for a casual visit or some cofee or what ever, eeven though he might come to yours regularly. of course . . . . there are so many other important things and people in every bodys life today!!!

4. You dont have to share any of your fears, happiness, sorrows or happiness wit your friend! treat him like a use and throw spoon.

5. call him once in a decade and that will suffice!

6. Even though a friend might have been there for you in your trouble, might have shared your pain while you where in pain, might have prayed for you when you where in distress . . . you dont even have to show an inch of concern towards him because . . . lets face it!!! you dint ask him to d all that.

and lots more than this!

whats wrong with all of us? why do we have to make life so miserable? please learn that friendship is a rare gift. it is difficult to find people who relaly love you. if you donot shoew your concern or validate the other person who cares for you, you migt have lost him for ever . . . .

friendship is not about calling once in a decade, not about helping your friend with money when he needs it, not about calling him when you have some work . . . friendshi is about being there for your friend . . . . being there as in being there always, without being judgemental!!!!

amidst all this chaos and nonsense, i am still blessed with some very rare friends like Phalgun, who will care for you, call you, help you, be proud of you, support you and be there for you irrwspective of your stupidities, your arrogance and your mmod swings. cheers Pal!!!! this is for friends like you!!! who always stick on and dont change with time!!!!!!